Daddy Day Care- Judged, Not Expected


After reading this article found on Yahoo, I quickly realized that everyone did not have a childhood like I did. My childhood very much involved my father playing an active role and doing a lot more than being a “deadbeat.” It is very sad to say, that like those who commented under this picture, that most of America thinks that black men are deadbeat fathers to their children. But there is only one way for us to fix that stereotype. And that way is for black men to step up and take care of their responsibilities. Taking care means more than just making sure the child support check arrives on time. It means making sure your son or daughter receives everything they need spiritually, mentally and physically. It means being there when they are hurting, when they’re happy, when they’re upset, disciplining them when they are wrong and helping them grow up to be a law-abiding citizen. Every child deserves a childhood like I had which consisted of two (mother and father) loving parents who were both there to support me. And this is the kind of family these two little girls were provided. And when their father tried to get his daughters ready for school and prove to his wife, their mother that “he could handle it,” he was scrutinized.

Doyin Richards took a month off from his corporate job to stay home and help his wife with their six month old and two-year old daughters. Getting more attention than he intended, the Los Angeles blogger got more than 5,000 shares and 3,000 comments in the matter of hours.  The comments, however, were not ones of admiration or support for a father taking the time to care for his little girls. They consisted of statements like “He probably rented those kids. They don’t even look like him,” and “I would bet anything that you’re a deadbeat.” Is that really where we have come? Robbing a black man of the possibility of taking care of his children. Instead of challenging this, we should be expecting this. It just shows how much more work we, as African-American citizens and families, have to do to show the rest of the world who we really are. Read the story, in more detail, here on Yahoo.



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