Fifty Shades of Grey

“My dear, don’t ever become comfortable or complacent in your grey area. Jesus didn’t die on the cross for you to live your life of freedom in grey. Some things in life will require a compromise; but your walk with Christ isn’t one of them.”

Recently, a friend introduced me to the song “No Grey” by Jonathan McReynolds and while listening to the words of the song, it made me think of this concept of grey that we, as Christians, often discuss and some even ignore. Once someone has aless-than-50-shades-of-greyccepted Christ in their heart along with His salvation and righteousness, they ask God to forgive them and they are made clean. However, after our “honeymoon phase” of Christian living is over where we are fully devoted to all things God, pray and spend time with God as much as we can; that’s when life happens. We realize living for Christ isn’t all peaches and cream and, eventually, we mess up. That’s where our fight between white and black begins. In the song it says, “Lord, I’m split in two part of me loves the world and the other loves You. So, what do I do? I wanna be saved but I gotta stay cool, too. And no, I’m not a fool. I know eventually I’m gonna have to choose. And I really don’t wanna loose my ticket into heaven and the chance to be used by you.” Often, we know we’re wrong. We know we’re straddling the fence of life between what’s right and what’s wrong. But we are so afraid of disappointing the world, missing out and feeling displaced that we allow the enemy to tempt us with a grey area. And when he tempts us, that’s where our compromise starts to happen.

You never want to start compromising with the enemy because sooner or later, you’ll find yourself slipping further away from what’s right and crashing right into all that you promised yourself you’d never do. The idea that “a little won’t hurt” or “just this one time” is a very dangerous thought the enemy puts into our heads to make us start questioning and debating with ourselves. If you think about it, in the Garden of Eden, Eve knew what God told her not to do but when the serpent came and made her start questioning herself and God, that’s when he could manipulate her and make her compromise. In the process of making grey, either black or white has to compromise something. If black is going to be black and white is going to be white, undoubtedly, there is no reason for a compromise. But because we want to have our cake and eat it, too– we make things much harder for ourselves.


Something else I’ve noticed that Christians do often is judging others based on their grey instead of taking the time to look at their own faults. “Did you see sister so-and-so? Girl, she know she need to stop switching all in front of Pastor’s face knowing he married.” (that made me laugh haha) We are so consumed in finding other people’s faults to help distract us

98b7a439cbff759cf1b916368e946fb7from our own lives falling apart. Satan is a lot smarter than we give him credit for. For so long, he’s been in the business of making other’s grey so evident to us so much to the fact that we are blinded by our own grey. 

 1-2 “Those people are on a dark spiral downward. But if you think that leaves you on the high ground where you can point your finger at others, think again. Every time you criticize someone, you condemn yourself. It takes one to know one. Judgmental criticism of others is a well-known way of escaping detection in your own crimes and misdemeanors. But God isn’t so easily diverted. He sees right through all such smoke screens and holds you to what you’ve done.” (Romans 2:1,2)

Just because you’re ignoring your own grey doesn’t mean God will do the same thing. In fact, He most definitely won’t. In Matthew chapter 7 we are told to remove the plank from our own eyes before even thinking about trying to call someone out on their stuff.

The devil’s favorite color is grey. I’m convinced. 


Truth is, we all have the one (or two or three) thing[s] that we struggle with that we would rather no one know about. As Christians, it’s fact that we are going to constantly have a battle between what our spirit and what our flesh wants to do. But like my Pastor says,the only way to kill your flesh is to starve it.” You must constantly ask God to help you to not walk in your flesh but to be led by His spirit.

There are many different things that Christians can fall victim to. And that’s why I decided to name this blog “Fifty Shades of Grey.” In essence, there’s probably more than 50, but you get the point haha. God is not a God of confusion, complacency or compromise. He clearly states in His Word the type of life that He wants us to live. And that life does not include judging others and trying to decide what shade of grey they struggle with.


So what shade of grey are you? I, myself, know my own gray that I struggle with day to day. I’m not perfect. I’ve sinned. I’ve made mistakes, but I won’t allow myself to unpack and make my home in the life of grey the enemy has prepared for me. Because I know Jesus did not die on the cross for me to live my life of freedom in the devil’s grey. So many people think the the devil is the one who makes us sin and do wrong things. While that is somewhat true, all the enemy has to do is take over our minds and we will sin all by ourselves. Romans 12:2 tells us “to not conform to the patterns of this world but to be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” That means the only way you can escape your grey is to pray that God helps you to renew your mind and change your ways.

So if you’ve gotten nothing else from this, my prayer is that you no longer succumb and fall victim to your life of grey. Don’t allow your grey to become your place of comfort or familiarity. Confront your grey. Assess your grey. Defeat your grey. Decide whether your grey is really worth you losing your eternal life over. Allow God to dilute your grey with His blood to make you as pure and clean as snow.

16-18 My counsel is this: Live freely, animated and motivated by God’s Spirit. Then you won’t feed the compulsions of selfishness. For there is a root of sinful self-interest in us that is at odds with a free spirit, just as the free spirit is incompatible with selfishness. These two ways of life are antithetical, so that you cannot live at times one way and at times another way according to how you feel on any given day. Why don’t you choose to be led by the Spirit and so escape the erratic compulsions of a law-dominated existence? Galatians 5:16-18

Watch this Spoken Word by P4CM poet, Ezekiel, called Almost Saved. I love it!

Journey wisely ❤️ 


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